Gay Astrology: The Complete Relationship Guide for Gay Men - Excerpt from the Book By Michael Yawney
Gay Astrology: The Complete Relationship Guide for Gay Men
Introduction
What makes a gay astrology book
different from a straight one?
The question is a good one. After all, an astrological sign is
what it is. Should it not be the same for anyone, gay or
straight?
The answer is that the basic qualities of a sun sign are the same
for everyone. However, these qualities do express themselves
differently depending on the specifics of someone's life. A
Capricorn in boot camp behaves differently from one working in a
hair salon. In each case the behavior will be Capricorn, but the
particulars will be different.
And gay lives are different from straight ones in many ways.
Straight people do not need to worry about coming out, relationships
with competing male egos, parenting without society's support, and a
whole pile of issues that every gay man faces every day of his life.
A gay astrology book should deal with the particulars of gay life
and how each sun sign deals with these concerns.
But gay lives are also different from each other. As are the
lives of various people with the same sun sign.
Each sun sign represents an energy that has to be acted out by
someone of that sign in order for that person to be happy. A Leo
leather daddy and a girly-girl Leo might act out their sun sign's
energy in ways that are very far apart, but still unmistakably Leo.
A gay astrology book should recognize the diversity of the gay
community and show how there are many different ways to be a sun
sign. Just like there are many different ways of being gay.
(Quick explanation: If you do not know what a sun sign is, it is
the astrological sign that you look up when you check your
horoscope. Each person has many signs in his or her astrological
chart - one for each celestial body and other indicators in the sky
when the person was born. This book will not get technical and will
only deal with sun signs. The other signs do affect behavior and the
psychological makeup of an individual, but the sun sign is the most
important factor in a chart.)
Now, on to a bigger question: Does astrology work? In my
experience, yes. Why does astrology work? I have absolutely
no idea.
Yet it does work. Most people have noticed that their best
friends tend to be of one sign and that persons of another sign will
make their skin crawl. Workplaces are usually dominated by one or
two signs. The reason is that most people have signdar. It kind of
works like gaydar. And, like gaydar, you might be using it without
realizing that you are. Here is a good example. I worked for a Libra
who hated astrology and purposely avoided looking at applicants'
birthdates. She also avoided asking about sexual orientation. She
made six to ten hires a year. A full 50 percent were Libras! Nearly
half the women hired were lesbians! This boss had fully operational
signdar and gaydar.
If you have never done it, it is a good exercise to make a list
of all your ex-boyfriends. Even the ones you had the most casual,
short-lived relationships with. (For some of you this may take a few
hours.)
Next to their names, write their astrological signs. (Come on.
You probably know it for most of them.) Chances are that one or two
signs will dominate the list. Flip to the part of this book that
tells about those signs and you will find a pretty good description
of the kind of men that attract you.
When astrology does not work, it is usually because we are
looking for the wrong information. The sun sign gives information on
a certain part of the personality. It describes the conscious part
of the psyche. It expresses who one believes himself to be. It will
tell how one thinks and solves problems. It will tell what motivates
one to act. It will tell where a person's energy in life comes
from.
The sun sign alone cannot tell you whom you will be "compatible"
with. It can predict strengths and weaknesses in a relationship. It
is very good at predicting what common interests a couple will
share, what their arguments will be about, and what patterns they
will fall into in daily life.
Astrology can predict whom one might fall in love with. (The
moon, Venus, and Saturn are the big indicators for the love bond.)
However, for that you need a complete chart for both parties, and an
astrologer with top-notch chart analyzing skills.
And is it not more fun to fall in love on your own without any
astrological assistance?
Astrology should never become a substitute for your own
experience. Rather than using astrology to anticipate and manipulate
the future, it can most effectively be used as a tool toward
understanding what lies underneath events and relationships in your
life - past, present, and future.
This book will not tell you what signs are compatible. Instead it
will describe the challenges and joys that await couples with
specific combinations of sun signs. This book will discuss what the
various bonds between signs feel like.
One thing astrology teaches is that everyone is lovable. No one
is unsuitable for having a relationship. It is just a matter of
finding the right partner. It is my hope that this book can help you
in your search.
HOW TO USE THIS BOOK
Loving Your Man
You already know how to use this part.
This part will tell you what to expect from each sun sign when it
comes to relationships. It runs from first encounter to breakup.
This is a good place to look if you are trying to snare someone of a
particular sign. Or if you are trying to figure out why it did not
work out with your ex. There is info on how a sign handles safe sex,
coming-out, and gay parenting. You will find that each sign has its
own way of looking at these issues and at how to be a gay man in
this new millennium.
The Five Faces
There are many different kinds of
individuals within any sign. There are also many different kinds of
gay men. So it can be hard to figure out how a particular guy fits
into this whole astrological thing.
This may help. Look at the Five Faces section of any
sign in this book. Each of these sections describes five gay
archetypes and how that sign might express itself through those
archetypes. Decide which face is closest to the man you are thinking
of, then check how that description matches up with the man.
The Relationships
There are seventy-eight different
combinations of signs in relationships. (Unless you count ménages à
trois.) Each is described here. As mentioned in the introduction,
you will find the joys and challenges of each pairing described. It
would be a mistake to discourage any of the seventy-eight pairings
from giving it a try. Every one of them will work for
someone.
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