Conversations with Chief Joseph & John Cali - February 14, 2002
Since 1992, John Cali has been communicating with a non-physical
entity called Joseph. In one of his many physical lifetimes, this
spirit was incarnated as the legendary Chief Joseph of the Nez Perce
tribe in what is now Oregon. The messages in these newsletters are a
blend of information from Joseph and John.
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How can I find my soul mate, my perfect mate? It seems like forever I've been searching for my soul mate. Sometimes I get so discouraged! Can you help me?
In fact, that is among the 2 or 3 most-often-asked questions Joseph
and I get.
It seems so many of you on the earth plane are forever in search of
your perfect partner, your soul mate.
And yet how many have taken the time to consider exactly what a
perfect partner, a soul mate, is? Few, I daresay.
So let us begin there.
First of all, many walking your earth today, when they hear the term,
"soul mate," instantly put a romantic twist, if you will, on it.
There's nothing wrong with that. But many romantic relationships are
not between soul mates. And many soul mate relationships are not
So let us broaden your concept of soul mate.
Let's take the term literally - soul mate. That means someone who
shares the same soul, the same part of the stream of consciousness you
find yourself in. And that "someone" is not limited to a potential
romantic partner of the opposite (or same) sex. It can include - it
DOES include - far, far more than that.
A soul mate can be, and often is, a beloved friend or family member
with whom a romantic relationship is not even a remote possibility or
desire in this lifetime. A soul mate can be a beloved pet.
You can even have a soul mate relationship with a place where you feel
passionately connected to the Universe. For example, the ocean, the
mountains, the desert, and so on. Basically, it's wherever you find a
resonant vibration, a deeply-felt soul connection.
A soul mate can be anyone, anything with whom, which you feel a deep
spiritual bond and passionate love. Generally, any relationship where
you feel deeply connected can be, in a real sense, a soul mate relationship.
However, let's get back to our earlier definition of soul mate: someone
who shares the same soul. You always recognize those who are
your soul mates by how you feel about them.
Think about those people (let's confine this discussion to people for
now) you feel deeply connected to. Many of them, though not all, are
your soul mates. And you will never have a romantic relationship with
most of them - not in this lifetime anyway.
But then, there are those soul mates in, or on the periphery of, your
experience who are potentially perfect romantic partners.
You do not have one perfect romantic partner waiting for you somewhere
out there. You have many. There is no "one and only." Rid yourself
of that notion.
That's not to say, however, when you do find one of those perfect
ones, you will not stay together for the rest of this lifetime. You
may well stay "till death do us part." Those relationships often
bring the deepest joy and most soul-satisfying pleasure you can
experience in one physical lifetime.
It seems to me the best place from which to launch your soul mate
search is right there at home, if you will. I mean the first place to
look is within yourself.
How do you see yourself? In your own eyes, are you loving and kind?
Are you sensual and sexual? Are you bright and beautiful? Would you
want YOU as your best friend? As your perfect lover?
Take a few moments to ponder that question before you answer it.
Would you really want yourself as your best friend?
If you can truthfully answer "Yes," you're 90 percent of the way home
to your soul mate.
If you must answer "No," that is not a bad thing. It's actually a
good thing. For it means you are realizing you have some work to do
on yourself. And NOW is the perfect time to do it.
My point is this: You are in absolutely the best and most perfect
position to quickly draw to yourself one of those perfect partners out
there when you are literally head-over-heels in love with yourself.
If you are head-over-heels in love with YOU, you don't need another,
do you? That brings me to my next point.
Many relationships on the earth plane today, and probably most
romantic relationships, start from a place of need. A place of
feeling you, by yourself, are not enough.
You know the litany:
* If I could only find my soul mate, I'd live happily ever after.
* If I could find someone to love me, I'd feel better about myself.
* I might even learn to love myself!
* Etc., etc.
From that place of feeling needy and definitely not loving yourself,
you will not attract your soul mate. Though you'll probably attract
someone, or several someones, as needy as you. And that just doesn't
To sum it all up, my dear ones, you must first become your own perfect
partner, your own beloved soul mate. Work on yourself first. That is
your first priority, especially if you haven't yet fallen in love with
If you can feel really good, really joyful, really uplifted, really
passionate, really sensual, really sexual when you are all
alone with yourself, you have arrived!
For then you will attract your perfect partner. You MUST attract your
perfect partner, if that is your intention, when you are head-over-heels
in love with yourself.
It cannot be otherwise.
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