When Will You Find Love?
By Judi Thomases
So many clients who are unattached and yearning ask the old question, "When will I
find love?" It's actually a good astrological question, and can be seen in Western
astrology by many different patterns. Let's look at some of them.
Of course, the most obvious item to focus upon is Venus, the planet of love. (For
"progressed", think secondary or solar arc.)
Progressed Venus conjunct Natal Sun (or vice versa, Progressed Sun conjunct Natal
Venus) is usually the best indicator of a year when the universe throws open the
doors and love walks into your life, and when you would draw another to you who
has affectionate feelings for you.
This is a time in life when you would not be meant
to be alone. However, the love object may not be a romantic or permanent one. My
case studies reveal that, in one instance, this pattern identified the period that a
child was adopted by a never-married single parent (the child being the true soul
mate ), and in another, the pattern pointed to a love affair that put the final nail in a
disintegrating marriage and set the individual upon an important life path but did
not result in marriage.
In the former situation, the mother also had Progressed
Venus entering H7 (another obvious prognosticator) and conjuncting the Natal Part
of Fortune therein, and in the latter, the relationship could be seen in retrospect as
an important soul agreement though not meant to result in permanence.
Progressed Venus conjunct Progressed Sun (or vice versa, Progressed Sun conjunct
Progressed Venus) is very similar in nature, as would be Progressed Venus conjunct
ruler of H7. In the latter case, the nature of the planet acting as ruler would greatly
influence the type of relationship formed. For example, if Saturn, possibly an older
or serious partner; if Mercury, a younger or friendly type.
Venus conjunct Sun/ or Moon/Descendant midpoint, Progressed Sun conjunct
Venus/Descendant midpoint, or Progressed Ascendant or Descendant conjunct Sun/
Venus midpoint would also be good indicators of a period in the life-clock during
which a loved one might appear. (My observation is that this quest for love isn't
really just about romance, because that's not always lasting. The real issue seems to
be about permanence in love - that is, marriage or a long-lasting relationship - so
I'll focus upon H7 rather than H5.)
Conversely, Progressed Sun conjunct Venus/Ascendant midpoint might signal a love
relationship (depending on the rulerships of the Sun or Venus), but might just as
easily indicate a period of comfort, self-love and personal beautification.
For those who work with declinations, similar indicators would also been seen by
Sun/Venus, Venus/Ascendant or Venus/MC parallels.
Of course, should any of these delightful aspects occur at a very young age, their
benefits will be pretty much wasted in terms of long-term attachments, but there are
stories of youngsters bonding with a friend or neighbor who later becomes their
true love, or at least their lifelong buddy.
A Venusian progression to itself - that is, Progressed Venus conjunct Natal Venus -
can only occur when the Natal Venus is retrograde at birth, and then turns direct
during the lifetime, or when a Natal (direct) Venus turns retrograde. And since
Venus' retrograde lasts about 43 days (thus, 43 years by progression), being born
closest to its stationing would best ensure enough time for this return to occur.
Such a period will emphasize the nature of Venus' natal significance at the same
time that it brings its Venusian qualities to the forefront. If natally well-aspected,
happiness can be brought forward; if afflicted, financial, romantic, or indulgency
problems can be emphasized.
But besides these obvious involvements of Venus, there are other conducive
patterns as well. Slightly less obvious are:
Whenever the angles are involved with Venus or H7, there is a good chance of love
appearing in one's life, such as Progressed Ascendant/Descendant strongly
aspecting Natal or Progressed Venus or ruler of H7, usually a positive signal for
marriage, or Progressed MC strongly aspecting Natal or Progressed Venus or ruler of
H7, another great time for love, even if the aspects are hard (because, after all, how
hard can a Venus aspect be?). In fact, either of these would be wonderful to
schedule a wedding around, as would Progressed ruler of H7 strongly aspecting
Natal or Progressed Venus. Even a less obvious aspect, such as Ruler of H7 in a
feasible aspect to an angle or a love-connected planet, might predispose to a
A Progressed Venus in major aspect to Natal Neptune is frequently found at times of
romantic events such as weddings, but tends to glamorize the emotions and cloud
the reality of the relationship. Such unions will face greater-than-usual trials
regarding the longevity of the marriage, but can certainly survive the progression if
an effort is made after its passage to deal with the less-than-ideal characteristics of
the partner that would then be revealed.
Then there are indicators for relationship that just generally emphasize its potential,
such as Progressed Moon into Libra or H7, or Progressed planets into H7, or even
the Involvement of the Vertex when found in H7. (The Vertex, normally found in
Houses 5-8, by my observation works as a fulcrum around which key events are
shaped; thus, if in H7, key partnerships will be accented when the Vertex is
If the natal chart has planets in H7, progressions or outer planet transits
to them will certainly accentuate relationships (but such horoscopes will always be
dealing with partners - or consequences of the lack thereof - as that was part of the
Venus-Moon patterns often result in an individual’s general contentment,
but do not necessarily show romantic involvement; sometimes they signal the birth
In regards to harmony in a relationship once formed, look to one partner's
Progressed Venus tracking another's Progressed Sun, and vice versa, or both
Progressed Venuses tracking each other (a situation not always shown by
conjunctions between comparative Venuses in the natal charts, since this occurrence
will be determined by the age difference between the two individuals as well as their
Of course, the topic of synastry is a separate one, to be applied after
a relationship has been formed in order to analyze the positive and negative
potential between the two horoscopes, and so does not fall into the parameters of
LESS LIKELY TO BE PERMANENT
Finally, there are patterns that might spark love, but offer the least long-term
assurance of permanence:
Transiting outer planets conjunct Natal or Progressed Venus or ruler of H7 will play
up the qualities of these planets, but can be unpleasant or fleeting just as easily as
the opposite, depending upon the meaning of the transiting planet or the natal
potential of the transited planet.
For example, Uranus over Venus might lend an
exciting but impermanent love experience while Saturn could be either restrictive or
Neptune would probably cause delusional fantasies about the partner or
bring a weak or compromised person into one's life whom one would wish to
And Pluto, of course, would likely offer a powerfully transformative
experience that could alter one's approach to sex, love or money forever!
outer planets into H7, on the other hand, would likely highlight the need to deal
closely with others, but far less likely, the arrival of love.
A FALSE FEAR
Anyone who trusts in the truths of astrology should discard forever the fear that
aging ruins your chances for love. It's a myth.
For example, I had a 70-year-old
female client, an artist, who found a suitor when her Progressed Sun was sextile her
Ascendant while her Progressed Venus was opposite her Moon, and his Progressed
Venus was trine his Neptune, crossing his South Node. (The latter pattern shows a
love-connection from prior lifetimes.)
Once meant to occur (by any of these afore-
mentioned patterns), the universe will go to great lengths to put two people
together. People will meet "accidentally" or on distant trips to places they will never
revisit, or will be introduced by a third party who will never again appear in either of
Coincidence or synchronicity will abound, and the non-astrologer will
remain amazed by such "luck," whereas the astrologer will nod knowingly as the
Divine Plan is revealed through cosmic mathematics.
When one of these patterns kicks into your chart, you'll watch the door of love open
wide in your heart. But it will be up to you to keep its flame kindled thereafter.
One caveat, though: as I said before, Venus symbolizes love, not necessarily
between two romantic partners.
I have several examples in my files in which one of
these patterns brought a soul-mate into the life in the form of a beloved child.
Venus can also symbolize pleasure and financial wellbeing. The right match can
even bring pleasant financial conditions along with love (such as marrying well), if
the horoscope predisposes. But if the natal chart doesn't do so, then positive
Venusian aspects will bring other types of love (such as the above-mentioned
never-married adopter whose difficult Natal Sagittarius Sun/Moon/Saturn t-square
precluded marital possibilities in the incarnation).
Some case studies of Venusian patterns revealing strong love-based events in my
files are as follows:
Forty-six-year-old widow meets second spouse - Progressed Sun semi-sextile
progressed Venus, and Progressed Moon into H7.
Seventy-year-old-female is courted - Progressed Sun sextile Ascendant, and
Progressed Venus opposite Moon.
Divorced female meets second spouse - He: Progressed Venus conjunct Sun; Her:
Transiting Uranus conjunct Venus, and Progressed Moon in Libra.
affair for female: Progressed Venus conjunct Sun.
First marriage for young eligible bachelor - Progressed Venus sextile Ascendant,
and sextile Node; Progressed Moon into H7.
(This article originally published in the February 2004 issue of Dell Horoscope
magazine. Reprinted with permission.)
Judi Thomases, http://www.WisdomPath.com, member of the AFA and the National Council
for Geocosmic Research, is an astrologer and spiritual consultant based in Rockland
County, New York. A Phi Beta Kappa graduate of Douglass College, founder of a
women's spiritual network for meditation, teaching, and personal development, and
director of an interdisciplinary self-development center, she is a regular contributor
to Dell Horoscope magazine, and writes monthly columns of The Brotherhoods'
teachings. She has studied, counseled in, and written about metaphysics, astrology,
and intuitive sciences for three decades. In 1997, Judi began to "hear" the voice of
her spirit guides, who told her to expect a flow of teachings that she could use to
help and heal others. These guides, the Brotherhood of Light Workers, transmitted
"Wisdom's Game" to her. www.WisdomsGame.com.
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