About the Author: Hui Ng is an experienced astrological consultant, adviser and expert in the fields of analyzing chart information for purposes of self-understanding, resolution of karmic issues and partner compatibility (composite & synastry). She also has a strong interest in general Spirituality and the areas of Numerology, Palmistry (Hand Analysis).
ARIES: As the first sign of the zodiac, initiation is your forte when it comes to having your sights set on someone who has captured your attention. This type of impulsiveness is typical of the feeling masculine types, who have a difficult time differentiating between love and passion. What Aries desire most is to experience life dramatically, to be surprised and intrigued repeatedly. Once the object of your affections has been captured, your interest wanes and you're off for your next conquest. This self-indulgent attitude and lack of awareness must be counteracted before you can hope to establish any successful relationships with others. Instead of viewing love as a personal, ego-gratifying conquest, you have to take into consideration the needs and feelings of those others involved as well.
TAURUS: As a sensual Earth sign, you want your relationships to be long-lasting and real. The challenge for you is in dealing with the consequences when things don't turn out the way you want them to. Like the proverbial Bull, you tend to doggedly dig your heels into the ground and refuse to budge when you meet any form of resistance, especially those that present a threat to your emotional security. When things don't pan out the way you want they to be, you have great difficulty in facing up to the facts and spiral into feelings of rejection and lack of self-confidence. Instead of realizing that the relationship contains real flaws and moving on to another that is more beneficial for you, you tend to stubbornly resist. This deep inner fear of loss is a recurring theme in your life that has to be dealt with.
GEMINI: As a Mercury-ruled native, communication is second nature to you and you naturally gravitate towards social situations and people who are able to stimulate you intellectually. You love the idea of love and are always looking for a relationship, perhaps to find your 'lost twin' to complete you at some subconscious level. Being a thinker sign of the highest order, there is a tendency to live in the head and ignore the feeling part of you. If you choose to experience life only through superficial fun, you are likely to become emotionally fragmented and overwhelmed sooner or later. Eventually, you come to realize that scattering your energies in several directions doesn't provide you with the depth of emotional connection that you would like to forge with a partner.
CANCER: Being one ruled by the Moon, you are naturally tied to family, tradition, nostalgia and the past. Being a deep feeling sign, emotional awareness and sensitivity are qualities innate in you and you were born intuitive. Your desire to build things comfortable, lasting and safe is admirable and makes you a stable and loyal partner. When it comes to love, ironically you throw caution to the wind. Once you're in a relationship however, your tendency is to stay committed to the point of being self-sacrificial. When your fluctuating moods take over you, an overwhelming feeling of helplessness causes you to withdraw without a word, which can leave your partner feeling rejected and confused. The tendency to allow irrational fears and doubts to take over has to be counteracted.
LEO: As a Sun-ruled native, you naturally gravitate towards the spotlight, where you love to soak up the attention and accolades given by others. Being a feeler sign that rules the heart, you are always craving for love in your life. Although you take love seriously, there is often an element of possessiveness involved in your giving. There is a tendency to be too caught up in your own romantic ideals which ultimately do not measure up to your expectations in reality. When things don't go your way, you are prone to temper outbursts and attention-seeking tactics. The greatest challenge is for you to move past your self-centered view and focus on the needs of your partner as well.
VIRGO: Though you are discriminating by nature, Virgo is a sign of change and process, and your love for editing, change and analyzing can be upsetting to your partner without you being aware of it. The tendency to live primarily in your head can make you cut off from your emotions. The tendency to vacillate in matters of the heart is emotionally draining. It disconnects you from the joy that can arise when you give in to your heart's desires. With your innate penchant for analyzing, categorizing and putting everything in order, you can be continually searching for the 'perfect' mate without success. Learning to accept the feeling part of yourself and giving up on the self-sabotage tendency to resist joy has to be acknowledged first.
LIBRA: Your innate sense of fairness and balance creates much harmony in your relationships as you dislike unpleasant things and avoid confrontation at all costs. The problem arises when you get caught up in your romantic ideals and fantasy which hardly match up to reality in the end. When you project your expectations onto your partner, this eventually churns out disappointing results as it is a form of disillusion in the first place. There is a tendency to vacillate, hide out in the head and evade or hold back emotionally when you are confronted with something you dislike. When you are able to make sound decisions based on reality instead of romantic ideals, you will be able to attract someone with whom you can forge a real long-lasting bond.
SCORPIO: When committed in a relationship, what you really want is to combine emotional and sexual love in a soulful bonding. As much as you are capable of extreme self-sacrifice for those you love, your tendency to go to extremes must be counteracted or you'd end up in a self-destructive mode, losing those whom you love most. You have a penchant for spotting and zeroing in on your partner's vulnerability. Control methods like this are destructive to your relationships. Instead of competing to gain an upper hand in the relationship, you must give both parties space so that you can come together as distinct individuals.
SAGITTARIUS: Relationships are important to you and you know how to take risks in love. Nevertheless, you put so much emphasis on personal freedom that you are often afraid of commitment. Your wandering mind is always fixated on the quest for self-knowledge and new ideologies. The problem arises when you enthusiasm starts off a relationship with a bang, which then fizzles into ashes shortly after. As long as you engage in behavior that only feeds the ego with your eyes fixed solely on the future, you can cut off potential partners in your life without you being aware of it. It is imperative for you to learn that joy comes from within, the Soul, contrary to finding it in some distant country or philosophy.
CAPRICORN: You also have a reserved manner and aloof demeanor that could prevent others from getting close to you. The truth is, it takes a lot for you to let down your guard as you don't trust easily and once you form a bond with someone, your controlling nature wants it to last forever. The problem arises when you confuse the feeling with the material realm. The challenge for you is to make a conscious effort to get in touch with your emotions instead of analyzing things through the head. By releasing the need to control the outcome of a situation and getting more in touch with your innermost feelings, you are able to focus in the present and make sound judgments.
AQUARIUS: Because yours is a group-oriented sign, the attitude you adopt in life, including those towards your relationships, is highly impersonal. It is not easy for you to get close to others as you do not take big risks in relationships. Your impersonal and detached style can cause much confusion for your partners in the form of unpredictability and erratic behavior. You have to allow yourself the time you need to process your thoughts without pushing others away so abruptly. In finding ways to connect yourself to the guidance of the heart, your partner will not feel so neglected and unappreciated. As the sign which rules originality and humanitarianism, you are capable of communicating to your partner with respect and truth.
PISCES: You are innately in touch with the subconscious part of your psyche and are attuned to the spiritual dimension of life. Living in a world of physical and psychic sensuality, you are often unable to distinguish between illusion and reality. Your emotions can color your impressions as you often see only what you want to see. Being so dreamy and a romantic at heart, you are in love with the notion of love and easily gravitate towards relationships. However, without touching base with reality, you are prone to choosing partners who aren't right for you. Fantasy can only take you so far before reality caves in. With an innate fear of rejection in your subconscious, you must keep track of what is going on in reality.