Meeting a compatible person for a relationship
can seem out of reach at times for singles
in the dating scene. Dating can be difficult,
as anyone will tell you who has experienced
online dating disasters or grueling blind
dates set up by well-meaning friends.
For those who are more spiritually sensitive
than average or actively involved in personal
growth and the self-realization process (e.g.,
prefer to search deeply into the meaning of
life), dating can be even more challenging
due to the increased tendency to see things
as they are, rather than as they would like
them to be. The following perspectives
about dating while on a spiritual path can
help make dating more fun and productive.
1) It's easy to get caught up in hopes
and expectations when dating, but the
best policy is to drop them. Knowing what
works for you, yet at the same time
surrendering and accepting your situation
as it is and accepting any person you
meet as they are will make dating far more
pleasant. For example, you can accept
that people who avoid inner searching and
self-help methods are going to view
you as an extraterrestrial when you tell
them about the visions you see during
meditation. Luckily, you have free will to
edit your conversations and be more
selective about who you date.
2) Try not to feel insulted when you read
someone's personal ad who responded to
yours and intuitively conclude they are
lying about some of their profile statistics
or that their pictures are probably ten
years old. Calling them on it will only cause
conflict, so just accept that the type of
person who misrepresents themselves in
a personal ad isn't going to acknowledge
the hassles it creates and might very
well behave this way in other parts of
3) During the first phone conversation
with a new dating possibility, don't take
it personally when they ask you 100
interview questions to see if you qualify
for the part in the relationship play they
are casting. Unlike you, they're not making
an attempt to intuitively sense the
compatibility and are likely trying to fit
you into what they want rather than
accepting you as you are.
4) During the first face-to-face meeting,
try not to share the clear, past life visions
you see of the person as a cruel, Roman
slave-driver long ago. They couldn't possibly
understand that you really did know them
in a previous lifetime or that one of the
reasons you could not bring yourself to
date them in this one is because you were
one of their badly treated slaves.
5) Likewise, until you know they are open
to the possibility of reincarnation and past
lives, try to refrain, at least during the first
few dates, from informing them that you
two were passionate lovers in a past life.
This kind of news, while exciting for you,
may seem too weird to them. The same
goes for the information about your lifetime
as a booze smuggler, pickpocket, or opium
addict. As amusing as the stories could be,
they just wouldn't understand.
6) When they are telling you about how
their previous relationships ended because
of how horrible their partners were, but
you see right through their version of the
truth and sense the real story--how it's
because this person couldn't be honest or
monogamous to save their life--keep it to
yourself. Vocalizing what you sense would
only spark discord.
7) When this person (from number 6 above)
suddenly tells you, on the first date, that
you're the only person they want and that
they'd "never" cheat on you, take it with a
grain of salt. They mean well, but don't know
themselves well enough to know better. If
they did, they would be honest with
themselves and be upfront about how
they prefer sexual variety.
8) Go easy on them. Due to your heightened
awareness, in part, from the all the work
you've done on yourself, you may understand
them better than they understand themselves,
so it may be like relating to a child at times.
9) Try not to laugh when your date, who you
strongly suspect (after getting to know them
somewhat) would lie, steal, or cheat to get
what they want, says, "I believe in karma."
They don't yet understand that everything
you do, even if you don't get caught, comes
back to you.
10) As the date (from number 9 above) starts
digging for information about your net worth
or how much money you make (with dollar
signs sparkling in their eyes), just smile and
say, "the Universe is my checkbook." When
it comes time to pay for your drinks, resist
the urge to skip out the back door and leave
them with the check and remind yourself
that this would create bad karma and tie
you to someone you'd rather avoid.
11) Luckily, you can save time by using
meditation and intuition to screen potential
dates. Don't cancel a date just because
you sense they may not be the love of your
life, but if you get several clues that the
person isn't ready to date, for example,
don't be afraid to cancel. Just be sure to
be considerate and let them know you're
canceling or that too will create negative
12) It may be better to wait for a more
appropriate time to share how you psychically
perceived them to be, within 5 minutes of
meeting on the first date, a very expressive
and generous lover. While some people would
be flattered, many would not like feeling so
transparent to a stranger.
13) Be grateful when someone dumps you.
They probably weren't right for you anyway
and you are now free to meet someone who
doesn't think you're crazy because you trust
14) Your heightened awareness may seem like
a curse at times, like when you wake up one
morning and suddenly, intuitively, and
mysteriously know the fated outcome of
a relationship after only two dates. Just be
grateful for it, as it can save a lot of time
15) When you crave a relationship and feel
a great sense of lack without one, remind
yourself that dating and love relationships
are an addiction for many and self-actualization
methods, such as meditation, can be a cure.
16) Keep in mind that the more personal
growth work you do on yourself, the fewer
people there will be who are compatible.
The payoff for becoming more self-actualized
can be more enjoyment of being single, and
a more fulfilling and less taxing relationship
when you do meet a compatible person.
17) When you do meet someone with whom
you share compatibility and chemistry, and
your new significant other asks you what
you see for your future together, it may be
best to simply remind them (and yourself) to
just enjoy the moment rather than worrying
about whether or not the relationship will last
as long as desired.
Scott Petullo and Stephen Petullo offer vital, yet sensible and practical spiritual guidance and tools, including their Spiritual Detox and Let Go MP3 meditation audios. Get their free report: 13 Spiritual and New Age Myths and 13 Other Spiritual Laws Besides the Law of Attraction. Website: spiritualgrowthnow.com They are the authors of Your Love Life and Reincarnation: Why The Past Is Affecting Your Present and How To Fix It.
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